Tolu Fiz Akanee is a thinker, writer and speaker; the author of A-Z Life lessons

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

These dreams

The burden of ambition
The struggle against ordinary
The crave for more
Slightly better
Slight mega
Slightly greater
The push
The drive
Can the future be here already?

It wasn't always like this
Early to bed, Early to rise used to be the order of the day
The longer the sleep, the longer the dream..cos dreams were infused in sleep

But with age came responsibilities
With age came these dreams
With age came aspirations
With age came these goals and the burden of success

As these aspirations got bigger
The nights became shorter

Day times have become too short for an early bed rest
And even when we get/fall on our beds early
Immediately, we start dreaming
These dreams again
Same bed, same dreams, different nites
Tables have turned
Dreams don't stand the same
Dreams now stand outside sleep
This time we are dreaming with our eyes wide open
The longer the dreams, the shorter the sleep

The longer the post, the more I crave sleep
Goodnite guys!

Saturday, July 9, 2011

A year today

It was just around this hour 365days ago, fresh out of school, 7-day old Electrical & Electronics Engineering Second class upper degree holder. In the days that preceded, the only people I probably wanted to talk to were Jaye, Funsho, Modupe, Harry, Aniekan and Dami, they were the ones that had come around to help me put things together for the book launch.

I can remember the emptiness on my graduation day, I wasn't just feeling what most people were feeling, all I had on my mind was the launch. The launch came and it was awesome. Many things worked well, all the guests had a wonderful time..I had fun too; in fact looking at the video, I couldn't believe myself.

Everyone that was around when all of these things were happening could testify to it that God was indeed with me. Amazing things happened, great amazing things! Sorry if I hype this one book launch too much, I know many more of my books will be launched, even after I pass away, but there's nothing as magical as your first.

Just last month, my mom sent the book to a friend in the UK and this is what he had to say: 

"Very many thanks for blessing me with copies of your debut. I had a friend with me when i opened the large envelope. After flipping through a copy, he refused to release it. I have read my own copy twice and am keeping it jealously.
Probably unknown to you, you have spoken the mind of God about wisdom, to the young and the old, this generation and generations to come.
I am quite excited with what i saw and read but not surprised. Your mum and i used to discuss the progress of our children many years ago and i have always seen you as someone who has a message for his generation. I thank God for using you in this very special way. I find the book very insightful, moreso, it has a spiritual touch."

365days later I'm sitted on a couch in a neatly furnished 4bedroom apartment that I have all alone to myself in the city of Port Harcourt, my 12th night in this city, it has been raining all day so I've just been pretty chilled, eating as much as I can while reflecting all day. I've talked to many people today and after their congratulatory messages they wanna know when I'm dropping my next book, some wonder why there are cob webs all over my blog and it might be surprising if I say I don't even have answers to some of these questions. I consciously took a break, but seeing as this break was taking too long I decided to break this silence.

I want to bring my blogging mojo back, I like this 30 day ish people have been blogging on, but some of the topics are just to fresh for me...I don't even know what they mean x_x

I would like to talk about how work has been in Port Harcourt some other time, I would like to talk about my observations. I would like to talk about my upcoming book as well. I would like to talk about how lazy I have been in certain aspects of my life. I would love to talk about my new dreams. I would like to talk about some of my fears. I would also like to talk about  my job search. I would like to talk about my inexistent romantic life and something I call the problem of over ambition.
Maybe I have my own list already, just maybe!

But I wrote this piece for one very key reason, and that is to appreciate God before all men. I don't know what things I do to deserve the things He has blessed me with, I've messed up on many levels but He has always been faithful. I love God and I believe Him in a most unique way, I can't find the right words to describe how much I believe God, but I must say I am a BELIEVER. Judging from the environment in which I grew up, judging from my average background, there are many things that my hands have touched that most people that were in those shoes with me are yet to dream of touching, God put me on another level and gave me bragging rights. I'm not the best, but I could have been worse. So as Paul said in 1Cor 1:31 "Let him that boasts boast in the Lord" This day I look at my CV and I boast in this one God. 

"Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof" this journey just started!

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Who will the Lord use?

Telecommunications came into Nigeria in the 50s and from that time till the year 2001, the nation could only boast of 500,000 subscribers. When GSM was going to be introduced into this country, the governing board issued 5licenses and gave all the operators a mandate to draw 2.5million subscribers in 5years. Failure to record a subscription base of 2.5million customers would attract heavy penalties and might adversely affect the renewal of their licenses.
In no time, they had mapped out a 5yr plan to achieve 5 folds of what was not achieved in the previous 60years and as soon as they came up with a promising strategy, they were issued licenses.

Within 6months of roll out, they had hit the planned 5year subscriber base target!

There are 30million households in this country. There is not enough electricity generated to serve these households. A recent report showed that each household uses an average of 20 electrical bulbs and that if everyone could switch to power saver lamps, it will reduce the amount of megawatts required to cater for the nation

Internet has been a big deal since the 80s and its relevance has multiplied over the years. Mobile internet is now prominent in Nigeria thanks to the introduction of Blackberry smart phones and the likes into the market. People now move about with internet enabled mobile phones attaching increased relevance to the essence of the internet in many spheres of life.
Broadband is not yet a big deal in this country. How many homes have internet? Just as our phones can do more than just dial numbers, our cable TV connections can do more; those DSTV dishes can do more.
Soon there will be a crave to get every home in this nation connected.

Africa is an emerging market, the opportunities are boundless. Within the space of 1 year, the worth of Africa's richest man tripled.

Amongst many other things, I believe the future belongs to:
1. The visionary; those who recognise opportunities long before they become obvious
2. Those who understand that men were not born with "impossibilities"
3. Those who are passionate enough to follow through on every opportunity that comes their way
4. Those who are empowered with the right kind of information.

Common to emerging markets are the immense opportunities they present entrepreneurs with. Don't choose the path of least resistance. Come out to stand as the one the Lord will use.
Sent from my BlackBerry wireless device from MTN

Friday, May 6, 2011

I love this prayer..

I like to say this prayer this way...

Psalm 23
The Lord is my shepherd
The Lord is my guide and compass
I shall never be in need
Before every need arises, His supply is already available
He gives me the most comfortable shelter
He causes me to lie in the midst of plenty
In the quiet, He speaks to me as He gives me clarity of vision and direction
My soul is at rest
My soul rejoices in Him
Even though I drive through dangerous streets
Even though I stroll through war zones
Even though I bounce past the territories of the enemy
I fear no witches, demon, or forces
I fear no fiery darts of the enemy
For I am in the King's entourage
For the host of angels are as a shield about me
The abundance of His supplies put me at rest
For in His presence are pleasures forevermore
Thou has chosen to pamper me
In the presence of my mockers and haters
Thou has poured thine Spirit upon me
Oh the oil of gladness
Thy anointing that breaks the yoke
And just when I'm thinking I've seen it all, you show up again and do even more
You embarrass me with favours all life long
The goodies are at my command
As I'm calling them forth, they respond in my favour
And it will be favour unlimited because of His mercy that clefts for me
His mercy that pleads my case even when I'm unclean

Friday, April 29, 2011

The house of mourning

 source: Google images

New births are recorded daily
Some received with joy, some with mixed feeling, others with regret.

People die daily
Someday you will die
Might be in a couple of hours, weeks, months, years or decades
But death is inevitable

All we possess are gifts from God and the Lord never requests for any of those things back from us. Nothing but the life He gives. He takes this one that we might enjoy life eternal.

I just got back into Lagos this evening after a short stay in the house of mourning.

It got to me a couple of weeks ago when I heard the news of his death as my mum broke down in tears on the phone, but the thought of his glorious exit did not spur up any feeling other than that of gratitude to God for a life well spent; It was easier to maintain that perspective while here in Lagos. But until I got to the centre of this all and his son rose up to the podium in church yesterday evening to give his eulogies, tears flowed freely from my eyes as he broke down in tears mid way into his speech; he held the tears back as he tried to exhaust what he had in writing but moments after that he burst into tears again as he was ushered back to his seat. Death is real.

I've never lost anyone that close to me before, and if he had not truly lived a righteous life, I wouldn't be discussing my deceased uncle on my blog. Very kind and humble man! As a kid he would always come around with his wife in their Peugeot station wagon and they would always come with sacks of this special "Garri saki" for momsy. He was a generous man, never will he visit without dropping something for the boys!
I remember the last days I spent with him, memories of the Saturday evening of his 62nd birthday in August 2009 is still fresh in my heart. For hours we sang hymnssssss. We started off singing songs we knew by heart, then we grabbed hymn books and we sang for hours after which he prayed for us and shared his thoughts on marriage and other things of life.
So I saw my uncle this morning and he looked the same. He was fast asleep and my mom kept on calling "Broda Tunde" but he wouldn't wake up. That's the closest I've been to a corpse and if not for the coffin one would think he was taking a nap while waiting for others to dress up too and join him in his outing. Death is real. It's an endless sleep!

I'm happy he died a righteous man, he knew he was going, he had ample time to give his parting words to his loved ones. To me, that's a golden opportunity. I know he is with the Lord right now.

So Solomon said
"(1) A good name is better than precious oil; and the day of death, than the day of one's birth. (2) It is better to go to the house of mourning than to go to the house of feasting: for that is the end of all men; and the living will lay it to his heart. (3) Sorrow is better than laughter; for by the sadness of the countenance the heart is made glad."
- Ecclesiastes 7:1-3

And just like the pastor said in church this morning. So many of us go to the house of morning to sympathize and share memories of the departed while we fail to reflect on our own lives.

My Uncle is gone. Who's next?
How prepared are we for the inevitable?
How prepared are we for death?

The game, they say is the same but the players are different. On the stage of life, they say same stage different actors.
"Teach us to number our days that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom"

What are you doing with what you've got today. Yesterday is gone and never to be replayed
Tomorrow is only a promise
Today is all you've got
What are you doing today?

It's so easy to say the cliché "live each day as though it were thy last" but is that truth reflected in our daily lives??

It is important that we all take some time out to go into the house of mourning (a place of sober reflection) to think things through. If you die today, what will be said of you? What legacy would you have left behind?

I spent a couple of days in the house of mourning and it has helped to place better relevance on time

Monday, April 18, 2011

Corporate slave trade

Word came to me on Friday that the start-up pay for graduates in NNPC is less than a hundred thousand naira and this stirred up great discomfort in me, I was sad as I couldn't contain the shock knowing what NNPC generates in financial returns on a monthly basis. To a large extent, I have a problem with the way things are done in this country, particularly how university graduates are treated, I earn a little above $300 every month and the goverment pays me additional $64 that I often feel insulted to withdraw from the bank; and once in a while when I get to discuss my pay with some people I get that "wow, you're lucky oh" and I always do a good job in containing my feelings.

I don't believe in operating based on local standards, after all our curriculum in the university was gotten from the western world, so your harvest for investing your time into getting educated should be somewhat comparable. Those that work the hardest earn the least in the country and it's disturbing.

If you were to be selling coffee at Starbucks or to be at the sales stand in McDonalds, are you telling me your monthly pay per month can be anything less than $1,000?
So we wear expensive clothes, work 8-5pm i.e. 9hrs per day, 5 days a week, which is 45hours a week and ultimately 180hours a month only to get $300 in your account (less than $2/hour) and no one is saying anything about this?

Agreed NYSC is service to nation, but what do you have to say about the average banker that gets #150,000 ($1,000) a month working 7am - 7pm (12hrs) daily, 60hrs a week, 240hrs a month
If you work 240hrs/month in McDonalds at $11/hr (google statistics) that's $2,640 = 400,000 in Naira. How many people earn up to that in this country? Some managers don't get two-thirds of that!

So well over 70% of those that I see waking up as early as 4:30am just so they can get to their office for 7:30am then end up getting back home around 9:00pm don't even earn up to $10/hour???!!
What/where then is the reward for their labour?

Things just have to change!

The vacancies are not there and the applicants are plenty, so the applicants that are offered the very few available jobs can't even negotiate their worth. They throw the offer letters on your laps and you either take it or any of the many other qualified candidates will take it. 
The people know that the jobs are not there but they don't understand that the jobs are not there, so they are brokenhearted after every unsuccessful attempt thinking that they are the problem. But the problem is most often not with the applicants, it is the system that is messed up. 

Oh African child
Where doth they hope lie

What happened to the days when employers were glad to recruit university graduates into their workforce. If I was well informed I heard the trend was: go to school, graduate, get the job that has been waiting for you all this while, get offered a car and comfortable housing. These benefits are no more! But wait a minute, I think the benefits are still there, but they are reserved for those without black skins. They treat the son of the soil like crap and offer the best of the best to foreigners, they are the ones enjoying the best of this land, they are the ones lodged in posh hotels eating the best dishes and living in the best suites. Agreed they are competent, but must they rub it in our faces? Can we not grow competent indigenes?

My heart goes out to mothers who borrowed money to send their children to universities with the hope that in a couple of years, there will be reasonable return on investment.  But our graduates are roaming all around the streets looking for the jobs that are not there. Those that are meant to create the jobs have left the world of works, to dwell with the 'powerful' so that they can get into political office and eat 'the good of the land' they've not worked for. If only those political gimmicks can be translated into business strategies, if only that greed can the translated into a thirst for economic growth.  Prices of crude oil has sky rocketed, which means there will be plenty of excess crude oil reserve cash for the nation at the end of the year, but we can't celebrate just yet because we know what selfish channels those funds will be directed into. 

The government is bad and the people are crying
But who/what is the government?
The people are the government 
The people are therefore bad and the people are crying 

Agreed most of the political office holders are not doing it right, but should the captain of industries join them?

If the educated earn that low then we should not be surprised when they tell us that millions of Nigerians live on less than a dollar per day. What are we doing to ourselves, why have we chosen to embrace this poor standard of living. 

My heart bleeds as I share these thoughts and I can't wait to put things in order, I crave for that moment in time when I will be a major employer of labour in this nation. I am too convinced I shall grow a model organisation, I am to convinced that the financial remuneration I will be offering my staff will be enviable worldwide. Reason being that I would be doing it out of love for humanity. We need love to get things right in this country!

Do these things bother you?
Share your opinion...

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Would you call it Compromise?

People only dare what they dream. 
But I realise that the processing of daring these things could often be unpredictable, along your way you tread smooth paths, crooked ones, you come across cross roads and the likes; the underlying fact is that you are constantly faced with thousand more decisions moments after you make that one supposed 'big' decision.

So I thought to share these thoughts on Negotiation.

Negotiation always means Compromise and Creativity
In the words of George Ross (Donald Trump's legal assistant) from his book Trump Style Negotiation
A basic fact of life is that we never get anything we want. So in the course I teach at New York University I tell my students that negotiation is a process in which people learn to accept an available compromise as a satisfactory substitute for that which they really wanted.

Everybody goes into a transaction thinking that they know exactly what they want. But they usually can't get it, so they have to learn how to compromise along the way..
For example, if I go into a car dealership, I might start out by saying "I'm looking for a sports car with four-wheel drive and a sun roof." Then I see a new model and say, "I really love that one. That's what I want" 

The dealer tells me, "That has everything you said you wanted and it's only $36,000." I didnt intend to spend $36,000 for a car, so I tell the salesperson that's beyond my budget. The salesperson says, "I can show you two other models in the $25,000 range, but neither one has all the features you want. How important are those features to you?" 

Eventually I have to forego some of the frills I wanted... What I ended up with wasn't exactly what I originally had in mind but it was a satisfactory compromise for what I thought I really wanted. Every negotiation and everything you do in life has pluses or minuses - you have to weigh the pluses against the minuses - you have to weigh the pluses against the minuses - and a  decision is reached when the pluses outweigh the minuses. It's that simple, although getting there often involves a lot of frustration, aggravation, and arguments.

What do you want from life?
What has life offered you?
Did these words help relieve that funny after effect of "maybe things would have been perfect if I had gone with plan D" you get after making a decision?
Feel free to share your thoughts on Negotiation.

"Let us never negotiate out of fear. But, let us never fear to negotiate" 
- John F. Kennedy

Sunday, April 10, 2011


Dad died 3years ago. Today, I did something. Wanna know what I did?

I did it
Yes I did it.
U don't get it, do u?
I did it

It's done, let it be.
Why look at me with so much disgust if u truly get it? I try to make u understand, I try to appeal to your reason, but u keep cutting me short with "errr....u don't have to go into the details, I get it"

U don't get it, do u?
For all you care, I did it

If mom had done things differently 2years ago, I wouldn't have done it. But she did what was best for her and because she did it....

Today, I did it
Yes I did it
U don't get it, do u?
I did it
I did it with him

Even though I didn't mean to
The same man mummy did it with it
He did it to my sister
And I was filled with so much rage that I had to do it with him

Did I say I did it WITH him? Oops! I meant I did it TO him

With my sister Cuffed to the bed screaming helplessly as he.... Yes I did it.
Soon to be 6feet down the earth, yes I did it
Broken glass door,White sheets soiled with blood, lifeless body. I did it. I did it because it had to be done.

The knife in the pool of bed, I did it. In fact, the knife did it.

Yes the knife did it
I thought of killing that rapist of a step father
But I'm relieved I did not
I would have been soaked in guilt
I'm relieved I did not

It's feels great to be innocent
Glad I didn't do it afterall
The knife did it
Glad I'm innocent

Sent from my iPod

Saturday, April 9, 2011

Weekend thoughts

It's good to finally get some rest after a long week.

Funny how Monday ended up being my most favourite day of the week. Started with the regular two and a half hour journey to work, plenty to do at work, then I found my way to AAF for a time out with Adaora Mbelu after work.

Even though I got to the event late, I was in time for the question and answer session. Adaora is a very smart young lady, I must say and her CV is just too impressive for her age. She's just 24!

It served as another wake up call for me. Had plenty of small chops to eat and trust me when I say "plenty"! Don't blame me, I was too busy for lunch break and if people like me didn't eat plenty, plenty will waste. Lol
A couple of old faces were at the event, Bede Okoro (celebrity read), Onyeka Nwelue (Blue hills), Nwando (Author of Out of Curiousity), Prince Wale Oreshade (Author of Sad Nectar), Nnaji (Dear Mother) then this Unilag dude that is about to release his first book, a Christian fiction novel (cant remember his name) and a couple of Others.

I also made new friends, Adaora bought a copy of my book, Femi did same and later dropped us home.
Since it was Wale's birthday, we left AAF for the movies to see Battle Los Angeles - first sci-fi movie I was seeing in a very long while. All of the action made it a perfect cinema pick. U might want to see a movie in the company of Wale and Nwando!!! I leave u to find out what ur experience would be like, but I must add that Wale is just a naughty boy!

I've been doing loads of dream work in recent times and I think it's a good thing. I could just sit down for minutes putting things together in the invisible realm and I have loads of fun doing it. But often times when I tell people that, they see me as a joker; I leave time to judge anyways.
We are getting there!

Sent from my iPod

Thursday, April 7, 2011

The video you have been waiting for

I promised to upload a video of my studio session yesterday and the interesting thing about the video is that there is no video! The talk about wanting to be a 'cool kid' was all a joke!
Where do I start my apologies from?
I thought to myself that it would only make sense for my 1st post for the month of April to be an April fool so pardon me for exciting ur imagination in the wrong direction.
I still can't believe you guys took me for real, it goes a long way in showing how much u guys believe in me and I'm really touched by that.

But seriously, can u imagine Tolu Akanni rapping? hehehehe

I am no rapper, I'm a writer and a speaker. I've missed blogging and I think I'm back!

My 2nd book should be hitting the book stores late summer and I'm trusting God for the best.
It just occurred to me that I didn't get any official review for A-Z (Myne and Harry!!!!! take note :|)

In the coming weeks, I will be doing a review on the patterns of success. I read the book Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell in February and I'm yet to recover from the amazing discoveries and insights from the book. The book inspired me to do a shallow research and I can't wait to share  my findings!



"All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds, wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act on their dreams with open eyes, to make them possible."

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

The post is titled...

Death of Autotune writing skills

Hi, I'm Tolu Akanni.

Contrary to your opinion, you don't know me!
As in you do not know me
I'm popularly known as a writer but that was in my past life. These days I don't write anymore.
I stopped writing for a simple reason, life as I have seen it in recent times has taught me that cool kids don't write. 'Cool kids' rap

I want to be a cool kid!

As in, being a cool kid is just coooooooooool!!

I'm gonna be 22 in 40 days and I want to be a cool kid by 22, so instead of doing non-cool stuffs like writing, these days I spend time in the studio spitting sick rap lines...trust me, I'm good!

The nice thing about this all is that I'm dropping a video of one of my studio sessions on this blog tomorrow....stay tuned!

Sunday, January 23, 2011

This employment thing

I would not say because I had job offers from 3 different multinationals for my NYSC then I have the panacea to this national issue,
However I think I can make suggestions on this employment thing.

This employment thing that has bettered lives
This employment thing that has ruined lives
This employment thing that has empowered some
This employment thing that has broken others

Why it is working cheaply for some and why is it still a big deal for many others is the mystery I seek to unravel based on my little exposure.

(1) I have come to realize that what you did in school when you were not reading your books is more important to your prospective employers than reading your books in itself.
Why am I saying that?
Flip through a well written curriculum vitae (CV) and you will realize that in the 2page document, you have less than 10 lines going to academic qualification while the other lines are filled with information such as your Job experience, leadership records, awards, profiles, interests/hobbies.

Academic qualification is common. Even your first class degree is not enough, there are many other applicants that have it.

(2) WHO ARE YOU????
While thousands of applicants can have the same qualifications, no two applicants have the same experience. Experience can only be similar, it can never be the same.
Your experience is what makes you unique
It is your uniqueness that gets you the job
So applicants are judged based on their individual experiences.

Academic experience is no experience, it is a qualification, it is the knuckle with which you will knock your employers door.
And as soon as you knock the door with the right knuckles (academic qualification) they open the door to see who's knocking, then you are asked to introduce yourself "who are you"

Who you are today is a summation of your experiences of yesterday
So when they say "who are you" they want to know your experience, they want to know what you've been doing with your life up until the time you knocked their door, they want to be sure you have what it takes to cope when you come in, they want to be sure you are equipped for the day-to-day activities that go on inside.

And when they fall in love with your "who are you" response, they let you in gladly.

Relevant experience that will make you indispensable to your prospective employers is mostly not acquired unconsciously, you have to work towards it.

-Have taste for reputable companies when it comes to internships. Once it's a big name, you have less explanation to do as regards the quality of your experience.
-Society membership which should lead to society leadership is the easiest way to build your leadership experience. It helps you to understand team dynamics; team business is people business and your employers really wanna know if you can handle people.
-Build your ideas. Don't just imagine things, attach an action plan to each one of your ideas, strive to push it into reality. Even if the action plan fails, in the process of making an attempt you would have learnt enough already.
-Read!!! Most of your interviewers are people that read, and when readers meet readers they connect.
-Improve your spoken English, learn other languages - it positions you for international appointments.
-Never forget your experiences

(4) WHO ARE YOU could often mean WHO DO YOU KNOW
Imagine a bus conductor that had a quarrel with a passenger and in the course of that, the passenger asked him "who are you?" and in response the conductor went "my uncle is a top officer in the army, if u mess up I'll get guys from the Ikeja barracks to deal with you"
He answered the "who are you" question without any indication to his person. This tells us that we are often judged by our association.
Like I have said over and over again, who you know can only open doors for you, it is who you are and what you know that will keep you inside.

If you are convinced that you have the necessary qualification and experience and you have knocked on the door of an organisation before and they turned you down, know that it's not the end of the world. Pick yourself up and try again until you pull through
Failure is an event, it is not who you are.
Companies atimes turn down applicants not just because these applicants don't have all of the required academic, social, professional requirement, there are times that they have 5 hot guys shortlisted and they just have to pick one. That's when they will go for the MD's in-law or the ED's son.
But you do not need all of that, you just need to know the king of kings, the MD of all MDs, the CEO that CEOs report to, the one who presides over presidents.
You need him
You need his hand

Go and get that dream job!

Sent from my iPod

Saturday, January 15, 2011

"God's will" : whether good or bad?

Funny how we conclude all that befalls us is "God's will" whether good or bad.

When NYSC posted me to ministry of special duties and I was trying to change my posting, one of the guys we (myself and my mum) approached at the ministry advised I pray about it because it might just be God's hidden agenda for me.

When I got Schlumberger most people said "God is really with you oh"
And of course, when I didn't get Exxonmobil you know what they said to me

When I didnt make first class in the university, I would tell myself that maybe God doesn't really want it for me.

Now I don't want to confuse anyone or stir up any argument on how you can tell whether God is in a given occurence or not, I just want to talk.

1. I have realised that people will always accept you and will always have a word for you in any circumstance. Because looking at it, a friend is supposed to "be there for you" no matter what.

2. You can't plan for life, you can't exactly push yourself into a breakthrough, the only way out is to live prepared.
In the words of Henry Hartman  "success is when opportunity meets preparation"
And this is what I have been doing and I intend to do for the rest of my life, TO LIVE PREPARED

3. Living prepared is not as difficult as many perceive it to be, it is not something that is achieved in a day; it is a process so it comes with time.

4. What to prepare for...
Knowing your vision for life helps you to know how to go about living prepared, when you walk about with that big picture of who you're gonna be by the time you are 50, it will help you live a life of preparedness.
Learning how to joggle a ball prepares you for a Nike endorsement in the future
Having female friends prepares you for how to handle your future life partner (vision: you're gonna get married someday)
Teaching Sunday school class prepares you for making presentations to small groups (vision: you're gonna be a CEO someday)
Learning how to speak french, spanish and a couple of languages prepares you for an international appointment
Reading the biography of Obama today helps in you in future political appointments

5. Preparation can only be adequate, you are never fully prepared
At a point in time, I was getting too much praises, facebook msgs, wallposts, blog comments, emails, face-to-face commendations.."I love your book" "thank you for touching my life" bla bla bla and I knew those commendations had potential harmful effects, so irrespective of my sincere gratitude to God I try to suppress it and tell myself that I'm not there yet so I would come online and start to read about millionaires and billionaires under 20 just so I can be reminded that there are loads of people better than I am.
Did it work?
Of course it did, it not only removed the sense of accomplishment (which mostly hampers growth), it sparked up a thirst in me to reach for the skies.

Therefore, if you feel your satisfactorily prepared for a particular thing, move on to the next.

GOD will do through you what you will allow him to do
Moses had a rod in his hand
David had a sling
The widow had empty barrels of oil
Seek to create an enabling environment for your blessings today

(Funeh thank you for inspiring me to write, hope this inspires you to write too)

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Window shopping

I went window shopping today, and since I left the store my thought pattern has not been the same

I went window shopping today, and since I left the bookstore my thought pattern has not been the same.

Too much has been written
There's too much to be read
Yet there's still much more to be written
And there will always be much to read

I have resolved to read plenty of books this year and I was going to start with Ellen Johnson Sirleaf's "This child will be great" but they didnt have it in Lagos' biggest bookshop....I didnt even go with the cash anyways, but I have prepared a list of must-reads for this 1st quarter of the year. Most of the titles I love are the expensive ones...these fresh fresh authors sef.

Some of my ideas are about to grow, there's a new project I just started with my friends..I would be glad to share more details as things become more concrete.

Speaking on ideas n dreams, I have realised that the room is always full when its time to talk the dream, but there are only a few on the field when its time to work the dream.

People are too lazy to push their dreams into reality, they give in at the slightest resistance, don't let that attitude follow you into this new year...dust it off. I have come to realise that there is a sort of stubborness that is common to most achievers

I leave you with the words of Josh Billings
"Be like a postage stamp, stick to one thing until you get there"

Monday, January 3, 2011

Fight for your dreams in 2011 (By John C Maxwell)

Happy New Year! If you’re like me, you spent some time in the past few weeks reflecting on the past year and looking ahead to the coming one. I’m already excited about what’s in store for the next twelve months!
What dreams do you have for 2011? Or maybe a better question is, do you have dreams for 2011? For some people, dreaming is easy. Your mind is full of dreams just waiting to be expressed. But what about those who find it hard to dream? What if you’re not sure if you have a dream you want to pursue?
Let’s face it: Many of us were not encouraged to dream. Others had dreams, only to see them actively discouraged. The world is filled with dream crushers and idea killers. Why? Some people without dreams of their own hate to see others pursuing theirs. Other people’s passion and success makes them feel inadequate or insecure. Others think they’re being helpful: keeping us from risk or hurt.
Business professors Gary Hamel and C. K. Prahalad wrote about an experiment conducted with a group of monkeys. Four monkeys were placed in a room that had a tall pole in the center. Suspended from the top of that pole was a bunch of bananas.
One of the hungry monkeys started climbing the pole to get something to eat, but just as he reached out to grab a banana, he was doused with a torrent of cold water. Squealing, he scampered down the pole and abandoned his attempt to feed himself. Each monkey made a similar attempt, and each one was drenched with cold water. After making several attempts, they finally gave up.
Then researchers removed one of the monkeys from the room and replaced him with a new monkey. As the newcomer began to climb the pole, the other three grabbed him and pulled him down to the ground. After trying to climb the pole several times and being dragged down by the others, he finally gave up and never attempted to climb the pole again.
The researchers replaced the original monkeys, one by one, with new ones, and each time a new monkey was brought in, he would be dragged down by the others before he could reach the bananas. In time, only monkeys who had never received a cold shower were in the room, but none of them would climb the pole. They prevented one another from climbing, but none of them knew why.
Perhaps others have dragged you down in life. They’ve discouraged you from dreaming. Maybe they resented the fact that you wanted to move up or to do something significant with your life. Or maybe they were trying to protect you from pain or disappointment. Either way, you’ve been discouraged from dreaming.
Take heart. It’s never too late to start dreaming and pursuing your dreams. My friend Dale Turner asserts, “Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born.”
If you haven’t done any dreaming yet this year, set aside some time to explore possibilities and commit yourself to new opportunities. It’s never too late to dream.

Saturday, January 1, 2011


Let's start the year with something challenging
Let the new year be a challenge
Let each day be a challenge
Let's set targets
Let's raise the stakes
Let's birth the unthinkable
Let's dare the impossible
Let's work together
Let's build synergy
Let's grow into a force
Let's stand by each other
Let's give
Let's share
Let's commit it all in the hands of God
Let's raise our glasses
As we make a toast to newness

Happy New year friends!